09 Sep, 2006
Drug Addiction: The Gay and Lesbian Family
Posted by: jhutt In: Drug Addiction| Gay Friendly Addiction Programs
Most of us can at least imagine the challenges the gay, lesbian addict or alcoholic must encounter growing up in a heterosexual world. The discrimination, prejudice and judgemental attitudes of those they come in contact with usually lead to a life built upon shame. It is no wonder drug addiction and alcoholism is so prevalent among the gay, lesbian and bisexual community. That being said, what about the challenges their heterosexual parents face. Their hopes and dreams that are built upon the belief that their children will one day experience dating and marriage as they know it and have children are shattered. In many cases, they blame themselves for being “bad” parents and play the role of the victim, while others lash out and blame their children’s choices on their drug addiction or alcoholism and call them confused.
Parents,Their Gay Children and Coming Out
Many gay people hide or deny their sexual preference during their early years and end up turning to drugs or alcohol as a means to cope with their feelings. Once they enter a drug rehab or addiction treatment center for their addiction or alcoholism and enrol in the family program, they may be encouraged to be honest with their parents regarding their sexual preference. One would think parents would love and respect their children regardless of their drug addiction, any disability they may have or sexual preference. I think it is safe to say that most parents find it easier to show a child with a physical or mental handicap unconditional love, than a child whose sexual preference is outside the realm of their heterosexual world. When a parent discovers their son is gay or their daughter a lesbian for the first time, denial and anger are the initial feelings, generally followed by fear.
Relapse Prevention and “Coming Out”
Parents are people too and fear what they don’t understand. Parents worry about how their gay son’s and daughter’s choices will effect them, how people in the community will view their family, are concerned about their children, their future and on some level, may even feel threatened. With the confusion and intense feeling s that are generated by a gay addict or alcoholic “coming out”, it is recommended that the addict or alcoholic have stable recovery from their drug addiction or alcoholism. The risk for relapse is high during this time so it is imperative that their relapse prevention plan and support system is in place. It is highly recommended, that when selecting an addiction treatment program or alcohol rehab you make sure they offer a comprehensive Family Recovery Program, approximately four days in length, complete with family education, group therapy and individual sessions. If you have trouble finding such a program, the people at Recovery Connection may prove helpful in assisting you to locate one.
