I got a disturbing phone call a couple of weeks ago: a friend of a friend had been found dead, at age 27.

This young man lived thousands of miles from his family, and was struggling with depression. He had a history of drug abuse. His death was first thought to be a suicide, but he left no suicide note. He had injected himself with cocaine in a hotel room. Lonely life, lonelier death.

His lover blamed himself for not getting him help when he was alive and is now struggling with the challenge of returning his remains to his family who live in another country. This is a real story. It is a heartbreaking story. No one should die this way. No one should get the news that a family member, a friend or a loved one left this world in such a tragic way.

When I talked to my friend he told me that the young man was a troubled person but also a great friend, a fun person, a common person who faced many ups and downs in his short life. Some of the downs were hard to live with, yet, in between depression spells and drug abuse episodes he was a lively guy who everyone enjoyed having around. Those close to him knew of his struggles, but did not know how to get him the help he so desperately needed.

That is why I am telling you this story. If you know someone who is struggling with depression and/or abusing drugs or alcohol, please remember that there are a number of sources for help, including Recovery Connection and 1-800-99-detox. Both offer help 24/7.

Do not hesitate to contact Recovery Connection if you know someone who needs help.

Sometimes it takes “tough love” to save someone – no matter if they are in their teens or facing a mid-life crisis. I hope this story may help someone out there who is struggling with the decision to come forward and help a friend, a lover, a family member or a co-worker who is abusing drugs or alcohol get into treatment. Now is not too late. Tomorrow may be.

Sincerely,

The editor